A lesson in increasing wellness

Attitude of increasing wellness

If you ever get committed to a mental health ward, you might be very annoyed by all the correction and the demands, and there is a very real sense that there is nothing wrong with who you are that definitely stands in the way of improving. But even if you have the attitude that there’s nothing wrong with me, what’s the harm in becoming even better? Should there ever be a limit to your personal growth? Having an attitude of increasing wellness means you’re always looking to improve, even when it’s not obvious to you this is a problem. There’s no harm in improving even further.

I think this is the only attitude that creates real growth, because you can always keep occupied with minor things even if there’s no real problem, both killing time and increasing your self development. I believe in this very strongly because I have experienced that there is wisdom in overcoming problems that are not that obvious to you.

Preoccupied with daily affairs, as a virtue

There is a lot of daily affair problems that come up in the span of a lifetime, and most people don’t really care too much about those problems but view them as nessecary. The most adapted people will have a great deal of capacity to solve daily affair problems, and the less adapted people will melt down over minor inconveniences.

You can view it as a virtue to be present in your daily life problems, because all those problems can add up to something real devastating if you do not get a fix on it. The inability to deal with boring, non-exciting struggles is related to some real gnarly mental health issues. There’s no reason to not be present with the logistics of life. Daily life problems are a part of life, and how could you ever solve any world life problems if you can’t even keep your apartment tidy, or stay well-fed?

You’re responsible for your mental health

Your mental health is your responsibility. If you blow up over any minor provocation, your feelings are hurt and your out of control, that’s your problem. You’re making it everyone else’s problem that you feel upset, that’s not strength but insecurity. You have the responsibility to decide your actions, you cannot rely on the outside world to balance out your anger, and tip toe around your insecurities.

If you cannot be the one who makes the choice in how you behave, your letting circumstance dictate your behavior. Even if you somehow manage to make all the right decisions, it wasn’t you doing it; it was chance. You can find strength in knowing that being responsible for how you feel isn’t a weakness, because the only reasonable other option is to be an out of control maniac. A lot of people choose the unresonable other option, but you have the choice to make a change here and now.

How to find balance

You balance yourself by pushing yourself into experiences and doing things you enjoy. If you enjoy playing guitar, but you never do it anymore, just push yourself to play guitar for a few minutes. Even if you never even feel enjoyment anymore try to find something you enjoy. You can even fall back on things you used to enjoy, or at least that you want to.

Balance is found when you are present with your daily life challenges, and you have a sense of experiencing. When you are having activites, and feelings, thoughts, in allignment with your own sense of personal values. There isn’t anything better and it’s something we should all strive for.

You’re the one in charge and it’s to you to decide how to live your life!

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